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7 tips for successfully setting limits for a 2-year-old child (Yes, it's possible!)

7 tips for successfully setting limits for a 2-year-old child (Yes, it's possible!)
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For most parents, raising a two-year-old child is really challenging, called the "Terrible Two"  because indeed they sometimes make us lose all of our nerves!

And this is where the big questions, the debates and the disagreements often start. And there are grandparents and neighbours who are trying to get involved and advising us with their own tips. 

Some parents believe that a two-year-old child is still too young to learn "discipline", while for others it is important to establish rules and limits very early on. 

Just yesterday's little baby thinks that by having a tantrum, they will get what they want. It is therefore important that parents remain calm!

Limits and standards are important, even at a young age. They teach toddlers to respect themselves and others.

So now that we know that boundaries are important, how do we set them? And who should do it?

Both parents are responsible for setting limits on their 2-year-old child. So they have to agree on this and let the rest of the family know, so that everyone can enforce this practice. When setting these limits, parents must take into account their child's ability to understand.

Here are 7 tips for setting limits for a terrible-two child!

1. Give precise and concrete instructions

2 year olds do not understand abstract messages. You must therefore inform them of the behaviours that are expected of them. You have to tell them behave yourself" or "sit well", but also explain to them what is right and what is not!

2. Speak firmly but calmly

You must explain to a toddler the rules they are breaking calmly and in a serious tone. To help you, you can write these rules and post them in a visible place. If they are doing something wrong or violates those rules, remind them of the limits calmly, without yelling at them, as they could act even worse.

3. Don't give in

You must keep your position firmly when the answer is "no". Do not give in, even if the child may start begging, crying or even attacking you or others.

If a rule has been established, it should be maintained no matter what. If you give in, the child will see that they can get what they wants by crying or sulking.

4. Use positive sentences

Children better obey the rules when they are expressed in a positive way. Instead of asking them not to shout, you should them tell to speak in a lower voice, for example.

For example, in the event that there is hitting you shouldn't just tell them not to hit. Rather, explain to them to treat other children with love and respect.

5. Stay aware of your child's personality

Not everyone is the same. Some children may need a simple warning, while others may need to see parents "angry" to obey. If your toddler does not obey the rules the first time, repeat them over and over.

6. Maintain mutual agreement between parents

If daddy forbids doing something, mom must respect and support his decision and vice versa. Because if one of the parents allows and the other does not, the child will see that it is not worthwhile to obey the rules of one and will go to the other instead.

7. Set up routines

Routines must be established and followed. If you set a specific time for eating or sleeping, you must stick to it, to help your child understand at that specific time they must do what has been decided.

If they don't want to sleep, put them to bed, explaining that if they don't sleep early, they will wake up tired.

Here are the advantages of setting limits for a 2 year old child

When parents set rules and limits for their child, there are many benefits. Such as:

- Growing up, they will learn that it is necessary to follow the rules. This will benefit them when they become adults.

- She/He will become a responsible person.

- He/She will have a feeling of security, knowing what attitude he/she must adopt and what is good or bad.

- Limits will help him/her develop his/her self-esteem.

In summary, it is necessary to set limits to a 2 year old child so that he/she is obedient and responsible.

Even if it sounds complicated, it is not that difficult.

Set limits and rules for your children, but always with love.

They will thank you when they grow up!

Source: Être parents · Photo Credit: Adobe Stock

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